A love and attachment you cannot shake, despite the consequences. My first suggestion would be to treat with skepticism any advice to take choice 1 over choice 2. And only you will know just how much sadness and anxiety is going to be inherent with either option.
It’s something like finding yourself holding a hot panhandle and gripping all the more tightly the more it burns. I also encourage you to respond to other postings with a few words of appreciation, support and ideas. There are many more readers of this dialogue than there are responders – you have an interested group here and we want to know what happens. Try viewing your dilemma as four-pronged: Choice 1 would be that you decide to leave your wife and that you do so in the most careful, strategic manner, doing the most that you can to ensure this unfolds as becoming the right choice.
However, judging from Oprah, Dear Abby, and countless magazines and relationship columnists it apparently needs to be mentioned. Men get the same charge out of porn as they do from watching You Tube videos of explosions, fights, and guys getting hit in the nuts. So drop all the female centric opinions about porn and what it means if your man watches it. Women we don’t find attractive are the most frustrating. Men like to be in the presence of attractive women. If we are in the grocery store, and there are three checkout lines of equal length, we will choose to wait in the line with the most attractive checker.
I’m going to tell you something about men and porn that is so important, so profound, that I’ll write it in all caps, bold it and use italics…oh, and put it in red also: A man could be in the most amazing relationship, with the most beautiful woman in the world, and have mind-blowing sex every day, and he would still look at porn. It means nothing and you can’t stop it anymore than you can stop the tides. If a man sees a woman he doesn’t like he’ll have brief flashes of thought about how he wouldn’t like to do her. It is a curse and all men simply learn to disregard these images and thoughts. If one of the checkers is especially attractive, but has the longest line, we will probably take it anyway if we don’t look too creepy doing it.
This is how your steak and potatoes philistine macho-man husband thinks. On the most primitive and animalistic level it is our job to make sure the human race continues, at all cost. We get erections ridiculously easy and we come quickly. In the modern world that means yes, we’re ready to go anytime, anywhere. To a man, if the sex is good, the relationship is good. It’s a result of a close, safe, caring bond with their man. Frequency varies from couple to couple and is usually a compromise between two competing desires, so there’s no point in defining here what constitutes “frequent”.
Gahndi and Streicher are doing a live event on April 4 to address the issues older people deal with while they're dating. Often, finance, children and other circumstances prevent any simple solutions.But, I also notice that many describe their own addiction of sorts – to the partner.Dating After 40: Make It Awesome Instead of Awful Tuesday, April 45 p.m. Northwestern Memorial Hospital, Feinberg Pavilion251 East Huron Chicago, Ill. It is not rare to see a younger guy and an older woman date and have a very intense sexual and romantic relationship, which defies the traditional “older man, younger woman” set-up that we are used to seeing. First, the fact that such a dating situation is still somewhat taboo makes is all the more enticing and exciting.The more mature women may be interested in dating a younger guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone younger, and also because usually younger guys are more “agile,” active, energetic.Being around a younger guy makes a woman feel younger as well.Many younger guys are driven to women who are 10 years older than they are or more, as these women are often more confident and more sexually driven and passionate than the younger women.These younger guys are both curious and excited about dating a woman who, is not ashamed of what she wants sexually, unlike the younger girls of his own age who are often confused about just about everything, including their romantic and sexual desires.This is how your brother, father, grandfather and every man you’ve ever come into contact with thinks. Some go through a mourning period when they finally realize, that yes, that even their wonderful, sensitive, caring husband is really, deep down inside, a pig. These are extremely brief, primitive thoughts, lasting only milliseconds. Relatives, teachers, and our best friend’s wife are included. This is so obvious I’m surprised it needs mentioning. Masturbation as well as porn has no relationship to how sexually satisfied he is with you. Secondly, we enjoy it because it engages our most primitive instincts and lights up our brain. Women we are extremely attracted to and ones that we are repulsed by are also included.