If you've been down this road before, you know that it's seldom successful.You remain stuck in the "friend zone," which is relationship purgatory if you have a crush on someone. There’s passion, love, fun, and maybe even an occasional “I love you.” But there’s a sneaking feeling that you’re not both seeing the relationship in the same way.But most likely he’s avoiding this introduction for a reason, and you need to know why.While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.The relationship is friendly, of course, but one person wants to take things further.possible.Trust me, I’ve been friend-zoned so many times it’s stupid.
At this point your relationship seems to have naturally evolved and you have the perfect opportunity to date someone who you already see so often and you already get on with so well. The lack of a name for your relationship can be incredibly frustrating, especially when one of your prying relatives inquires about your love life at a family function.I found it easiest to say I was single, even when I wasn’t exactly single — I was just in a relationship that was pre-exclusive.That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.If the object of your affection becomes aware of your intentions, he or she might not reciprocate, and that's going to hurt. Instead of asking someone out on a date and being bold in their intentions, they turn to the soggy milquetoast alternative to dating: "hanging out."Here's how it works: you like someone but you're afraid to let him or her know. It has the trappings of a date—a cozy ambiance, comforting beverages, atmospheric music—while allowing everyone involved to disavow the actual occurrence of a date.The clues are the regular contact, the sleeping together, the kissing and the sex.However it's not always that clear cut and sometimes you can develop a relationship with someone that seems to be more than just friendship but not quite official dating either.One of the more popular pre-exclusive relationships, friends with benefits are exactly that: two people who consider each other friends, but engage in regular sex when it feels right.In reality, these people usually aren’t really that close as friends, since true friends usually aren’t trying to bang each other. You may call this person over to watch some TV and hang out for a bit, but you both know where the night’s heading.The number and variations of types of pre-exclusive relationships isn’t always easy for older generations to understand.Since I’m sure I’m not alone on this, I’ve defined 11 different types of pre-exclusive relationships to help you figure out (and explain) your own nebulous situation.