Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all. Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him? The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity.
But in online dating, men my age are not looking at women my age. The men I do hear from are older than me by 10-15 years and are looking for a far more relaxed lifestyle or trying too hard to be youthful (If it is genuine, great, if not, it’s annoying.) I don’t want to date men who remind me of my dad, who want to eat quiet dinners every night or sit home watching movies.And on average, they had a more generous definition of “too young” than women did.But on the other hand, men were also attracted to women their own age.The stereotype that older men are usually attracted to much younger women may not fully reflect reality, a new study suggests.The study of Finnish adults found that many heterosexual men were, in fact, interested in women substantially younger than they were. I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him. Because he had a reluctance to grow up, he wanted to stay young in as many ways as possible.And as they aged, their preferences for a sexual partner matured, too.Basically, the stereotype that older men go for young women is “too crude,” said researcher Jan Antfolk, of Abo Akademi University, in Turku, Finland.“Sure, some older men have a strong preference for clearly younger women, but most tend to also find older women attractive,” Antfolk said.“An interesting finding is that as men age, they become less picky about age,” he added.I want to be in a relationship, and I’m worried it’s not going to happen. Here’s what I think about middle-aged men who say that they’re looking for much younger women: it’s often a dream, driven by a midlife crisis or a bruised ego.If you come across a profile of an older man who seems like a good guy, just ignore the age requirements listed and write to him anyway.