It means he's not really interested, but he's not burning bridges so that you're still there for a lonely night.If he suddenly texts you a bit out of the blue one Friday night after several days or weeks of not talking, he hasn't been busy.
There he was at the opera house, his head low and eyes up giving him that simultaneously worshipful and conspiratorial look, passing you a note saying, “Meet me at the fountain when the clock tower strikes nine.” There he was, texting you right back when you texted him, even asking you out on actual grown-up dates to actual grown-up places like concerts and lectures, and then… However, I do know that I have been that man many, many times.Many women have the frustrating experience of going out with a guy on one or a few dates, thinking that things go very well between the two of them, and then having that guy suddenly stop calling, lose all interest in them and disappear.It is probably not a big deal when it happens with one or two guys, but if this has been your experience with men over and over for several years or longer, it is hard to not take this personally and not start believing that there is something about you that turns men off and makes those men lose interest in you over and over. How do you get a guy to treat you like priority instead of an option?There he was, totally interested, looking dapper in his buffalo skin while nonchalantly swinging his club at the cave entrance, offering you some freshly killed mastodon meat. What, if anything, could you have done differently?Have you decided having children and going out of your way to force him into permanent commitment is what must happen or else you will be heartbroken and disappointed?Let’s examine the destructive nature of this way of thinking. If you build up these ideas of what must happen for you to be happy, you wind up never being happy when these expectations are not met.“Why is it that a guy fiercely pursues a woman at first, and then when he finds out she is actually interested he is not so sure if he is interested anymore? For background, I’m 29, live in Australia, and I’ve been on 5 dates with this guy so far but we haven’t kissed yet.” — Sheila Well well.And then his interest wanes and he starts treating her like an option instead of a priority? An excellent question that has been posed by women since time immemorial.This does not mean your man has gone off of you; it's just another stage in your relationship.But when things seem to take a sour turn, who's to blame?