Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share.As the words tumbled from my mouth, all three gave me ‘the look’.His youngest daughter was extremely sickly or maybe just accident-prone.It was difficult for us to make plans because we had different schedules, and, to make matters worse, his daughter would get sick (or whatever) when we had plans.Before the conversation ends, he asks for your name and number so the two of you can continue talking over the phone.Just as soon as you thought your prayers have finally been answered, he tells you he'll call you once he drops off the kids..his baby momma's house. So what's a woman to do when she meets a single dad?
I have learnt through maturity and life’s little lessons, that limiting yourself or options because of the checklist of the perfect man or ideal relationship you have etched in your mind doesn’t actually prove to be realistic. Yes the other woman; the ex who will always be present in both of your lives. Will your plans get rescheduled at the last minute, because something came up with the child or because of a situation with the other parent? Can your significant other manage any possible drama? And let’s be real, what about feeling secure about your relationship when you see him with her and their child, looking like a happy family unit? Still, it was a great relief to have taken that step. another thing with dating someone who has a child is this…When your boo has children there are schedules, babysitters, school emergencies, and worst of all ... I've dated a man with kids twice and each time the ex stirred the relationship pot.If you’re a 20- to 35-year-old woman without any children I caution you against dating a man with kids.These guys prioritize around their kids, so they have zero tolerance or time for silly dating games. Kicking around a soccer ball, watching the newest -hood.They are more willing to cut through the nonsense and commit to someone they feel is genuine, trustworthy, and a rockstar. Spending time with my future stepdaughter taught me that I can be patient and ﬂexible, two traits I never thought I had!Well, for starters, it's certainly not the end of the world.Even though there are obvious disadvantages to dating guys with children, there are some really great advantages, as well. Men with kids have to schedule their time around kids.In my case, we haven’t really had any tension thus far. there are many people out there who have a child with their ex. Coming to terms with it depends on what the single (and childless) individual is willing to accept, all in the name of love and finding ‘the one’. Possessing the ideal qualities is what would make the final deal in him becoming a potential husband.Knowing What You’re Getting Into Communicating with the Father from the Start of Your Relationship Dealing with the Mother Easing Yourself into the Child's Life Community Q&A You're dating a man and he has children.I knew exactly what they were thinking, as I spoke about my newfound love interest, and him bussing the file that he had a kid.Wasn’t I the same person who vowed to never date a man with a child? There are other men who are single, childless and worth getting to know. I was up for the challenge, and decided to give it shot.