He paid incredible attention to the tiniest of details and I felt like he actually cared about what I had to say.
It was so easy to fall for him, especially because he made it clear he was falling for me.
What they have in common is the need for control and the compulsion to exert that control in their intimate relationships. The short answer is no, you did nothing wrong — except maybe fail to see the early warning signs and run for the hills.
And controlling behavior on the part of a partner knows no boundaries—people of any age, gender, sexual orientation or socioeconomic status can be in controlling relationships, playing either role.
Be objective as you analyze how things have changed since this relationship began: * Are you enjoying elevated esteem from your friends & family, or are they looking at you sideways?
Are your family relationships suddenly filled with tension, every time your partner’s name comes up?
But as time went by, the suggestions and friendly tips morphed into criticisms and demands.It turns out, your perfect guy is a control freak who demands that everything is his way or the highway.He has array of psychological tools at his disposal to ensure you do what he wants or suffer the consequences.They can be the soft-spoken boy next door or the well-educated, amiable extravert.They can come from just about any background and socioeconomic status.I’d never heard it before, but every word felt like a razorblade tearing at the fibers of my heart.Every hair on my body stood on end and I suddenly, involuntarily, without warning, burst into tears.Many of us visualize a controlling partner as one who openly berates everyone in their path, is physically aggressive, or constantly makes overt threats or ultimatums.We picture the grumpy bully who belittles every server he or she encounters, or commands their partner how to dress from head to toe.The consequences range from ultimatums, manipulation, and threats to shaming, blaming, and shutting you down.Controlling men aren't always the beefed up tough guys you see in the movies who yell and scream to get their way.