Advice for men dating single mothers

The female race is an elusive and intimidating breed. In fact, I would venture to say that there are times when even they don't know what they’re thinking, so you have GOT to be on your toes. Once you think you've got them figured out, you get clocked in the head with their purse, and you have to look for another gal to date.

Now that you've got some fond (or not-so-fond) memories of dating bouncing around in your head, I'm going to throw another element into the mix that will make the dating game a little more advanced.

If the single lady you are interested in is also a single mom, chances are her free time is limited. Yes, you need time together and yes, you should make her list of priorities, but don’t expect to be the list, and don’t whine if she wants to see friends or recharge alone. Don’t just understand that they come first, embrace it. This can be challenging in the best, most-amicable of situations, thanks to our very human natures and pesky evolutionary flaws like jealousy. She loved, she created a family, and at some point, she let go. Updated to add: The use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. If you screw up and get pregnant, don’t screw up even more and bring an innocent child along with you! Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.If you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. The rest of us who have to LIVE with your fucked up, emotionally scarred children will PAY you to have a fucking abortion. Second, single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. You both put each other’s happiness above your own. Now divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, MIGHT be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head: it takes two to tango. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that?To others, the word summons horrific memories of blind dates that made you want to run for the hills.For me, the word triggers memories of blown money, awkward silences, over-analyzed text messages, and just straight-up awkwardness.The gal that you're interested in dating is a single mom. You're drawn to her because she is very mature and independent (and beautiful, no doubt)—you like that.But along with her fears, feelings, and needs that you have to be willing to give your all to, she might have a few kids that will need that same sort of support and love as well. You know how to flirt, how to ask someone out, how to be charming, interesting, and an altogether enjoyable date. If she is running up against challenges, offer her love and support and encouragement in whatever form speaks to her. If you've been in the dating scene for any significant length of time, you likely feel you've got it handled. Her life is full of responsibility and commitments and little people who need her. True, she's a woman and wants to be seen as that but she's also a mother and she needs to be seen as that, too. Here are ten things you should know if you want to date a single mom and not suck at it:1. Between single-handedly managing parenting, a career, and running a household, there's often not much room for leisure.

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